Wednesday, August 15, 2012

Been There, Done That

Who hasn't heard of 50 Shades of Grey? Probably many of you have read it. But I'm not going to. Going into the world of a controlling, sadistic man like Christian Grey who gets off on fear, abuse and violence, and an unrealistic character like Ana whatsername is just not for me. Many have said the book's sexy, others have said the birth rate next year will rise because of it. But I say that women who find Grey's predilections are very few indeed. BDSM is fine when two people consent to it. But when fear becomes part of the equation, just forget about it.
What's provoked this little rant? Another book has.
This one portrays exactly the same scenario. A CG character but with a realistic female victim who is left so traumatized by what's happened to her that she suffers from OCD, Post Traumatic Syndrome, horrific panic attacks and acute depression. And she's no wimp - she's a strong character who fights courageously against this awful man who is charming and handsome and...well, everything Christian Grey is.
And this book is realistic? It sure is. I hope quotations are OK, but here goes, this is what Catherine, the main character says, "I'd always thought that women who stayed in abusive relationships must be foolish. After all there had to be a moment, a realisation that things had taken a wrong turn and you were suddenly afraid to be with your partner....It isn't that simple." And this one, also from her: "Do you know what the worst thing was?....It wasn't sitting in there, in that room, waiting for him to come back and kill me...It was that afterwards nobody, not even my best friend believed me."
And the name of this book? Into the Darkest Corner by debut author Elizabeth Haynes. FIVE stars, Ms. Haynes. Well done! You're telling it how it really is: how awful and terrifying it is to be in an abusive relationship and how inadequate the victim feels when she blames herself and when no-one quite believes that the charming boyfriend or husband is capable of torturing her both mentally and physically. This is an unputtadownable (like that word? It's my favorite) book. Not at all depressing or maudling, this is a suspense/thriller that will have you calling for more.

And the reason for this post? 

It makes part of the brilliant blogger Siv Maria's Blog Hop "Unforgettable"

You see, I have been there and I have done that. If you're hesitating between 50 Shades and  Elizabeth Haynes's book, read "Into the Darkest Corner" that's all I can say.

18 comments:

  1. I'm sorry!
    Abusive relationships are so wrong.

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  2. Thank you for the heads up on this book. I will definately check it out. There are many women who have suffered through abusive relationships. I am sorry that you were one of them, so was I, but I got out in time. Thanks for joining my blogfest and sharing this story.

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  3. In a right thinking world it would be this book, and not 50 Shades, that people would be talking about.

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    1. It was a great idea for a blogfest Siv - thank you! Thanks Alex. You're so right Joe. Thanks for your comments!

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  4. What a great post! Personally, I too, have not chosen to read Fifty Shades. I agree. It degrading toward women. What was this author thinking?

    Hugs and chocolate,
    Shelly

    Thanks for visiting my blog.

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    1. Chocolate? Yum! Thanks Shelly :-)

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  5. I haven't read it either but I'm amazed at how quickly the hype about it has spread around the country. I'm not sure I'd feel comfortable reading Into the Darkest Corner either but that's just me.

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  6. I also avoided 50 Shades not jjust because of its Twilight connections, but also because of the glorified abuse. I can safely say that BDSM is not abuse. And has somebody who has also been in an (emotionally) abusive relationship...no thanks. I'd must rather read an accurate account than something that made me feel disgusting about myself. Not because I'm ashamed of my sexuality (quite the opposite) but because all it does is remind me of all those people who thought what I went through was "no big deal". (Like, what I've heardfrom 50 Shades fans.)

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  7. I understand, Rosalind, although rather than being traumatic, the book's just a great thriller really.
    Oh, I'm sorry, Hildred - a big hug.

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  8. Great post Sue. Into The Darkest Corner sounds great.As for 50 Shades - I have read it (a friend challenged me!). I will not be reading the sequels. Rarely have I come across a more badly edited, tedious book. And to think it was published by one of the Big Five too!

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  9. It amazes me too, Cat. Thanks for commenting.

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    1. Thanks for this post. The Darkest Corner sounds like an excellent read.

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  10. I haven't read Fifty Shades of Grey (and don't plan to) for the reasons you stated. This sounds like a much more realistic, powerful book!

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  11. Oh it is, GE, definitely.

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  12. i haven't read the grey book---the one you recommend sounds very worthwhile

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  13. I'm thankful there is a good and accurate book out there to mitigate the damage 50 Shades is doing. I have no interest in reading 50 Shades, whatsoever.

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  14. I don't know anyone who's read it, actually - so how come it's at the top of the charts? Thanks Lynn and Shannon

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  15. Into the Darkest Corner is one I'll put on my TBR list. THanks!

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